After 6 years wanting to leave

bonbon · **Posted:** 2007-04-22 1:40

i been with my ex for 7 yr...like u lots of up n down. last 2 yr, i kept thinking of leaving him...cant see future together...its lik u stuck on a stage n really not going anywhere. this yr i finally stand up n left eventhough life witout him not as comfort as i used to be...i still miss him...but i think a woman need to plan for herself somehow...i knw all kind of passionate love will end up like we were after some yrs but i cant just live with a flatmate forever?i still rem the way he looked the day i moved...i was very moved but too bad my flatmate is not yet ready to settle down n i m getting old n bored of this stage.

Auntie · **Posted:** 2007-04-22 11:43

jsc8i46m wrote:

佢同朋友講自己唔係第一次dump,趺落地拿返躑沙...故意咁講,減少傷害情度????
定想向佢佢朋友威下,,?

妖！次次都俾女友飛...佢又會有幾威啫？佢夠膽死同啲friend咁講...諗住人哋會同情佢咋嘛！佢應該諗下...次次都係女友選擇離開佢，佢係咪一個有問題嘅男人...好過啦！

BingBing，
你離開得啱架！呢啲男人唔要都罷！

Ah Mui · **Posted:** 2007-04-22 11:58

Bing Bing, please take care. You deserve a much better one.

chowbing · **Posted:** 2007-04-22 14:06

Thanks everyone!! I know what you guys r talking about but my heart cannot follow the way I want to. His stepmother called me up wanted to know what really happened. He sent me a message said he is thinking our situation and will be ready to talk to me in about a week time. $\weiwei\$ His family members talked to him for about 2 days trying to find out waht he is he thinking and also his feeling towards me. I am very lost !!!

kooleve · **Joined:** 2005-03-04 23:29 **Posts:** 41 **Location:**

姨媽，唔知妳仲記唔記得我係邊個呢? 嘻嘻! 我想話多謝妳舊年俾咗好多意見同支持我，我而家已經將佢放低咗。雖然而家仲係單身，不過我覺得而家仲過得好過以前，亦都覺得自己同佢分手分得好啱(因為同佢分手半年後佢已經同咗一個大過佢兩年o既女仔一齊，仲有意於明年結婚添!)，而且呢個男人未同我分手就追其他人，之後追唔成又同朋友講話仲鍾意我but唔夾啫，冇耐之後咪又同過第二個，男人有時真係唔係好信得過。不過點都好，只要我自己過得好便覺得滿足了，希望我會遇到一個更好o既人啦!

BingBing，有時覺得冇將來就要放手架喇，我之前個男友都成六年幾都要分手，我諗其實你都應該幾瞭解你個男友個性格，咁多年都係咁都冇計，妳而家掛住佢係咪只係習慣咗同佢一齊? 我諗六年唔係一個短o既時間，但當妳而家o既心態變咗o既時候(我估)，妳覺得對佢o既愛係咪足以令妳忍受佢o既缺點? 如果妳揀咗佢就要受晒囉，咁妳自己又會唔會開心呢?

我好同意姨媽o既講法，妳唔試吓離開佢又點會知自己o既選擇係唔係啱呢? 其實當妳覺得要離開佢時，妳已經開始覺得有問題啦，咁不如分開一下先囉，因為我覺得一個男人去到咁o既年紀都係咁唔成熟的話，妳同佢一齊都會好辛苦o者。

我記得以前我睇過一篇文章，喺現今社會裡其實一個單身的女人冇咩大不了，結咗婚而又開心o既亦都會替佢哋開心，最慘就係嫁錯郎，所以妳都不妨理智地好好審視呢段關係，唔好俾一時o既心軟同情感影響咗自己o既判斷呀!

Auntie · **Posted:** 2007-04-23 12:44

姨媽搵番你嘅topic出嚟先！ $\kiki\$ .......原來係你呀！
http://www.yucheecrew.net/phpBB2/viewto ... ht=#137235

依家係咪開心好多呢？所以話呢，呢個世上冇話邊個冇咗邊個唔得嘅！
成日話自己唔可以放低，其實就係自己唔肯放低啫！好開心你依家諗通咗！講真...單身生活又幾好玩架！做咩都冇人管住哂！ $\teeth\$

BingBing，
邊個提出分手都好，多數都因為係冇哂感覺或者有異心...先至會講分手。既然都已經成為事實嘞，點解仲要有所留戀呢？
分手係倆個人嘅事，唔需要向佢屋企人交代，更何況你哋只係拖友又唔係夫妻關係。就算係夫妻關係，都只係向老人家交代下啫！
佢屋企人同佢傾又有咩用？仲要用兩日嚟傾？ $\bubble\$ 四十幾歲男人...係唔會改變架啦！就算變...都只會係三分鐘熱度咋！
佢仲要一星期後先至ready to talk to you？同佢講...你哋冇嘢好傾啦！你都已經決定咗咯！你千其唔好咁容易俾佢啲甜言蜜語感動到喎！男人desperate起上嚟嘅時候...乜肉麻說話都夠膽死講架！
忍痛一排啦！會好快冇事架！

kooleve · **Joined:** 2005-03-04 23:29 **Posts:** 41 **Location:**

姨媽，真係多謝妳呀，我而家真係開心好多，起碼煩少咗另一個人啲嘢(因為佢o既唔成熟，搞到我要擔心埋佢啲嘢，都幾辛苦)，好多人而家見到我都話我靚番晒lu...哈哈(因為之前瘦咗太多，樣又殘晒)，總之而家單身都可以玩得幾開心架! 另一半搵唔搵都冇所謂，隨緣囉! 好o既先要架嘛!

BingBing,
其實咁大個人都應該要識得自己解決問題，呢啲嘢要同屋企人傾，傾完先決定追番妳? 咁o既話佢係咪真係愛妳呢? 定係佢跟本唔想負成年人o既責任，咁係同佢一齊都係等如湊仔咋喎。

妳記得一定要夠狠心，千祈唔好心軟呀，好似我都痛過一排，而家咪又好好地! 呢個世界真係冇話冇咗邊個唔得架，難得妳而家有諗清諗楚o既機會，妳一定要加油呀!!

chowbing · **Posted:** 2007-04-29 17:25

We finally talked, and we both agree to start all over again. At the moment I am staying at my Mum's. He will stay by himself. We both realised that we had communication problems. $\pain\$ We both want to talk more in the future.
I hope all of you won't think I am useless. I am not a very strong person.
From now on I will try to express myself to him in a gentle not the hash way like before.

chowbing · **Posted:** 2008-06-24 22:07

chowbing wrote:

Been with my bf 6 yrs we had ups and downs. I dun see any future for us and he never talks about our future. Our relationship is like flatmate. I am thinking of saving $ in these few mths to pay down payment and deposit for a flat for rent. Anyone can give me suggestion what to do? Am I doing the right thing? $\wide\$ I won't let him know my plan, I will leave quietly, maybe leave he a letter to let him know what I feel. $\weiwei\$

最終都捱唔住，分咗手喇! 不過我覺得好開心好輕鬆，是個解脫 $\happy\$

新男朋友對我好好 tim !! $\red\$

Auntie · **Posted:** 2008-06-25 16:59

你呢個0靚妹！搞咩呢？Waste咗成年時間！

係咪俾你識到第二個先至飛佢呢？ $\teeth\$ 講個過程嚟聽下！ $\tongue\$

chowbing · **Posted:** 2008-06-29 15:30

No la!! I have been single for a while, then meet my present bf ga!
Well!! finally , I felt that I had enough of this relationship, it's getting no where!!
At least this time I left him without pain, unlike last time.
I dun feel that I wasted 1 year , maybe I won't have meet my bf a year ago! $\red\$

Auntie · **Posted:** 2008-07-01 21:30

咁就恭喜哂你啦！記得改下啲脾氣喎！啲男人唔話得架！有咩問題...真係要坐低同佢好好地傾架！千其唔好好似阿媽咁成日 "哦" 佢。

chowbing · **Posted:** 2008-07-02 18:17

呢個男朋友對我好好，好錫我，有比較之下原來之前嗰個對我真係麻麻地。

Auntie · **Posted:** 2008-07-03 19:01

啱！有得比較嘅時候，就唔會執著之前果個架啦！

所以真係諗唔通，點解失戀嘅男同女，可以好肯定地覺得冇咗身邊果個....就冇哂人生樂趣？
點解有啲人只不過係暗戀對方、甚至只係同對方有一面之緣，就肯定對方係心目中的另一半？
唉........其實大家只不過係未撞到個更加好嘅啫！

chowbing · **Posted:** 2008-09-26 17:56

經過咗3 個半月......今曰散咗lu...!!又再老土D 講，因了解而分手! 但我好OK 喎，喺我提出嘅! 識耐咗佢，佢嘅真面目出嚟喇，佢係嗰D沽寒人哋，闊佬自已嗰D 人，當然仲有好多其它問題啦！ $\pain\$

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